@ImproviseForReal David just reposted this video in another thread, and it got me thinking. I’d like to share some of my thoughts.
So often we look to others with “Should I ______?” We seek advise about what we SHOULD or should not do. We seek the opinions of others regarding the path we’re on. As Tony Robbins put it, “We should all over ourselves.”
David’s video reminds me that no one knows our path better than we do ourselves, and no one is going to be a better advisor to ourselves than ourselves. I see in the multiple saxophone Facebook groups a recurring question, “Should I get such and such brand, what reed should I get, etc.” and then there are, in reply, as many varying opinions as there are replies.
I shared in another thread my stunted musical growth from my childhood until my early 60s, when I truly began the work to become a musician. I worked with the first teacher who was willing to shape the lessons around me and my learning style, vs the way it SHOULD be done. I have always been an unconventional learner, as many with Asperger’s are.
I spent 2-1/2 years with her gaining proficiency with my instrument, learning all my scales, building the muscle memory, attaining a sense of rhythm and time, learning how to articulate in the jazz language. One thing was a constant goal: being able to improvise. And this is where I hit a roadblock. She was trained to be a music educator, and therefore tried to teach me improv the way she was taught to teach it. It never connected. I would get frustrated, and we eventually fell into this pattern of my getting assignments that I could have assigned myself, and me doing the work, and having this cycle repeat itself with me no closer to improvising.
Then one day I had a breakthrough when I started playing my horn while my wife was singing and playing either Stand by Me or Summertime. All I did was listen and play using the pentatonic scale of whatever key the song was in. When I shared this breakthrough with my teacher, she kind of put down that I was using the pentatonic scale rather than improvising over chord changes, so it always felt like what I was doing was ‘less than.’ It kind of made me feel like an imposter.
I couldn’t get her to help me move in the direction I wanted to go, which was to explore this new (for me) way of musical expression. So I went off on my own to explore it. Then I discovered IFR, and the world opened up to me. I started to learn tunes based on the numbers. I transcribed all the tunes I wanted to play into charts based on the numbers. I found that there was no such thing as a difficult key, and could play tunes in any key.
The sing the numbers tracks, for me, were the most valuable part of IFR–as I gained more from them than anything else in the program. I would play with my sax in the dark as a daily meditation.
I was thrilled to find like-minded people in this forum who have done similar things like @DavidW.
The bottom line is that we make our own paths. There is no 'should." “Should” is limiting. Our inner guide, that part of us that draws us on a soul level in a particular direction, is our compass, and it won’t lead us astray. No one’s ‘should’ for us is better at guiding us than our own soul.
I really appreciate David Reed’s sincere desire that we find our own path, his revulsion of dogma, and his nurturing spirit. He made a discovery, shared it in what to me is the most useful book on music, and has done so without a guru vibe. There are so many online programs that lay out a rigid structure, filled with what one ‘should’ do. But what works for some doesn’t work for all.